Maya’s Blog Team BioAny relationship that you enter into is going to take work and commitment and there really is no “secret” to success. That being said, it is important that you remember to keep doing what you did to get her, if you want to keep her. Most women understand that every man is not the romantic type, but she still needs to feel like she is special to you. Although words are important, she’ll need to see the action that backs it up, otherwise it’s just words.
1. KISS OFTEN
This may not seem like such a big deal, but there is nothing more loving and erotic as a kiss. Women have more than one erogenous zone and the mouth is on the top of the list. Kissing makes her feel closer to you, it makes her feel wanted and desired. Kiss her often and hold her close while doing it, let your hands go where they please. Something magic will happen. A smile, a voluntary massage or an invite for more. You’d be surprised how far a little kiss can go. Not just on the lips, but her hand, her neck, shoulder, anywhere you feel she needs attention at the time. Believe me, the reward for that simple gesture is great.
- HAVE REGULAR QUICKIES
Fast sex may seem unromantic, but short bursts of passion keep you bonded because they release dopamine and oxytocin, which hare two chemicals that trigger loving feelings. It doesn’t have to be amazing every time, it just has to happen often. Stroking, cuddling, kissing, touching, all of those things relieve stress and induce feelings of desire. Never be too busy or tired for sex, initiate a quickie and you will both end up feeling better. Hug more often, kiss more often, touch more often, and just watch the sparks fly.
- EXPRESS YOURSELF COMPLETELY
If you love her, say it. Not only does she like to hear it, she needs to hear it…often. Just as you need reassurance and a little incentive to keep the wolves at bay, so does she. If it’s true, and you feel it, say it without fear and totally unprovoked. Tell her she’s beautiful, believe me, someone else already has. It would be great if she heard it from you. She may not always need to hear, “I love you too” although it would be real nice for those of you who neglect to return the sentiment. “I love you” is always nice to hear when it’s from the heart and not just because she said it first.
- SURPRISE HER WITH A LITTLE PAMPERING
Women absolutely love surprises. It never has to be a grand gesture for all to see, it’s all in the little things. Surprise her at work with flowers, run a hot bath for her, give her an impromptu massage or make her breakfast in bed. These little gestures and more like them make a woman feel like a woman. It makes her feel special and honored by you, appreciated. The buzz from that feeling goes a long way, so pour it on, she probably really deserves it. This is not something that needs to be done all the time, just every once in a while to let her know that she made a good move in choosing to be with you. The return on this little investment of your time is of astronomical proportion.
- BE A GENTLEMAN
Chivalry is not dead and men are not pigs. Act like a man and make her feel like a lady. Take a moment to open the doors for her or extend your arm for her to hold onto after a long night in her heels. Open the car door for her, help her take off her coat, hold the umbrella for her and put the toilet seat down. These are all gestures that make her feel special to you, delicate. She may holler about “independence”, but deep down she wants to be treated like something precious you don’t ever want to lose. This is the “knight in shining armor” we speak of. A man valiant enough to win our hearts, one worthy of the prize. We may not need Prince Charming, but we do desire to be treated like a “fair lady.”
- MAKE A COMMITMENT
If you love her and she truly is the one for you, don’t drag it out and risk losing a good thing. If you want her to be your wife and mother of your children someday, put a ring on it. If you love her enough to make her your life partner, then make it official and honor her with the privilege of your last name and the title “Mrs”. There is truly nothing like it, not even close. Make it official.
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