Sooooooo, I am over at Brown Sista and there is a post entitled, “Why Are Women So Pressed to be Married?”
Talk about loaded words, ma. You have got marriage and pressed and why all in one sentence?? lol
I will summarize it for you, if you do not have time to read it. The author is at a social function when women start discussing men and their desire for marriage. The author seems rather annoyed at these women and points out how she is so not one of them -how she is so independent, fulfilled and happy. These women were by default – not.
What the what?
One upon a time, marriage was the rule not the exception. Is it now the figurative pariah? Does wanting to be married and have a lifetime partner someone make you weak, lonely, or that dreaded word – desperate? *insert audible gasp* Are you one of those backward, mentally oppressed women who has not realized her freedom to be single?
I am having a conversation with a guy about the same topic. He is also expressing reservations about marriage. He asks, is that why you are always discussing relationships? Do you want to be married or something? YESSSSSSS!!!!!! DUHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
What is so wrong with that? I have set many hard to reach goals in life – education, moving to a new city, my book, and my weight loss. I have many restarts and setbacks. I have decided to make marriage an actual goal. I am not ashamed to admit that. I am very independent, happy, fulfilled and all that good stuff. I will admit this; each and every single time I take out the garbage, I am like – This sucks! I need a husband! REAL TALK! You can draw any conclusion you like. It is your brain not mines. My mind tells me that I must conceive a thing first before it is birthed into reality. I am. I do. I wrote a really thoughtful response on the post. I do behave myself on other people’s blogs, BUT, what I really wanted to say was girl, boo. You ain’t fooling nobody. You know you want to be married, too. Maybe not now but eventually. lol Who wants to be 60 talking ’bout, me an my boyfriend about to go the movies? Chile, the devil is a liar!
Felicia Michelle Malone is a published author and blogger originally from Chicago, Illinois. She authors the lifestyle blog at www.talulazapple.com and a fitness blog at www.getfitwithfe.com. She was honored to be a semi-finalist in the Proctor & Gamble’s 2014 My Black Is Beautiful Ambassador search.