All women shout their independence from the rooftops, but there are still areas that she appreciates her man taking the lead on. She may not voice it, but secretly, a woman wants to be handled in a way that makes her feel “owned” in the right way. Take charge, own it, take it…women like that. Respect and equality are important parts of any relationship, but sometimes a woman just wants a man to be a man, and pull one of these secretly sexy moves on her.
1. WHEN YOU DON’T ASK
There is something about asking a woman for permission that really takes the momentum out of the mood. If you pay close enough attention, she’ll let you know exactly what’s what. Sometimes a woman just wants her man to go for it. Just take it. This goes for the bedroom as well. Take charge, take control, act like you already “own” it. A woman will gladly give it to you, no permission necessary.
2. WHEN YOU ASSERT YOURSELF
Ok, don’t take this out of context. Women love assertion, not control, there is a big difference. It is in our nature, afterall, to submit. A woman knows she can get out-of-pocket at times, and if her man gives verbal intervention with a lil of bass in it, she ain’t mad. There’s just something sexy about a man who is not afraid to put his foot down and assert himself. A woman wants that same assertion with the check after dinner as well. Going Dutch may be a popular trend nowadays, but there’s something real unsexy about a man who sits back and waits for a woman to pull out her wallet. A woman wants to feel like a woman at all times and can’t always do that if her man takes the backseat. She won’t always admit it, but sometimes it’s cool to tell a woman what to do. That goes double if those instructions happen behind closed doors.
3. WHEN YOU STAND UP FOR HER
When a man stands up for his woman’s honor in any and every situation, whether she can handle it herself or not, he’s probably going to get a big “thank you” later on that night. Anytime a man acts protective, it shows her that he genuinely cares. This applies even for something as simple as killing a big bad bug. If given a gas mask, some bug killer and a Timbaland, a woman could handle it herself. But just because a woman can, doesn’t mean she wants to, it’s always nicer when a man comes to the rescue. There’s just something sexy about a man who makes sure there’s air in the tires or calls to make sure his woman made it home safely.
4. WHEN YOU BRING HOME THE BACON
Feminism was about the right to go to work, if a woman wanted to. There is something so sexy about a man bringing home enough bacon to support whatever choice a woman makes in that respect, and honors her choice. Being a woman can also mean that she is allowed to love staying at home if that’s her thing. It’s all connected to a man taking charge and asserting himself as the head of the household. A woman loves the feeling of being “taken care of”, not to be confused with “kept”. Whether she admits it or not, it is part of what makes her a woman.
5. A GOOD SMACK ON THE ASS
This is one of those things with no explanation, a woman just likes it. It’s an old school move that has never really gone out of style. Probably dates back to the caveman days. Although a man is no longer allowed to drag a woman by her hair, she still loves a good smack on the ass. This is especially effective in the bedroom. Be the kind of man that holds the door open for her, and then smacks that ass as she walks through. We love that.
6. WHEN YOU’RE GOOD WITH YOUR HANDS
A woman knows that not every man is going to be mechanically inclined and some women can even fix it themselves with Google’s help. But sometimes, there’s just something about watching a man put something together with his hands that makes a woman fantasize about what else he is going to do with those hands. Women like to be handled a little rough at times. The best thing a man can do is become “Mr. Fixit” for his woman and be at her beck and call for regular “tune-ups”.
7. WHEN YOU JUST WANT TO SHOW HER OFF
A woman knows that she’s more than property or a trophy, and that she’s loved for more than just her looks, but it’s always nice to know that her man gets excited by the way she looks and wants to brag. It is a delicate balance. We don’t want to feel like a trophy or property, but if a man puts his woman on display for all to see, it shows he’s proud of her. A woman likes to know that she is appreciated in that way, it’s a feel good type thing.
Kimberly R. Jasper
Kimberley R. Jasper was raised in Jamaica Queens, New York and still describes herself as a true New Yorker through and through despite currently residing in Humble, Texas with her family. From horror fiction with a mystical twist to erotic thrillers, this author does it all with well-seasoned finesse.