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I gave her flowers today

I gave her flowers today to make her smile.   I gave her flowers to help ease the pain of the blows she accepts without a word or tear.   I gave her flowers today in lieu of a lecture that would tell her enough is enough. It’s time to stand up and walk away. 

 I gave her flowers today with the hopes that she will see that  someone else loves her too.. why not love herself. I gave her flowers today not to justify his actions of abuse. 

I gave her flowers today with the determined heart to show her that love should not hurt. I gave her flowers today to let her know that she is the victim and it’s not her fault. I gave her flowers today to encourage her that I will stand by her side. I gave her flowers today to show her that I will not judge her. 

I gave her flowers today to show her that I am ready to walk with her through the storms of  what we call life. I gave her flowers today to show her what a true friend means.

 I gave her flowers today to represent the strength she has to be free. I gave her flowers today to just say I love you. Finally, I gave her flowers today for the last time.  

For today would be that dreadful day that I said good bye one last time as we lay her to rest. I gave her flowers today.  No more punches, no more blows to the ribs, no more slaps to the face. No more tears for I said good bye today. I gave her flowers today. 

I gave her flowers today for the last time. I said good bye to my friend today. For she will feel no more pain from her abuser because the last time he hit her, he took her life. I gave her flowers today one last time. 

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Those Pesky Gasses!! by Felecia Tucker

With all the weather episodes our world is facing one can’t help but stop and ask why? Is it the normal cycle of climate or are we humans leaving a mark that has propelled us into a dangerous place and is there a way out? I know many of you have heard of Global Warming before. This idea of Global Warming has been tossed to and fro from just about every political figure and religious organization across not only this country but the world.

 

Recent activities has again started the chatter about this intriguing yet needful conversation about Global Warming. What is it and is it really the cause of so much destruction?

Many years ago I watched a documentary called The Inconvenient Truth with former Vice President Al Gore. He presented scientific insight on the direction of our world as it relates to fossil fuels, greenhouse gasses, and the role humans play in harming our beloved Planet Earth. He spoke about how vehicle emissions, factory pollution, and deforestation has caused the instability of our atmosphere.

 

Humans of course are major contributors to our atmospheric demise, primarily oil companies. According to scientific studies this is the major cause of dangerous weather conditions. Earth is heating up because of those pesky greenhouse gasses. 

 

There are some government officials who claim that Global Warming is a hoax and there are others that look at the facts, evidence, and listen to scientific reasoning. Many countries across the world have joined in and pledged to take the necessary steps to slow down and even stop activities that contribute to the destruction of our planet. Our current administration refuses to be a part of the Global Warming solution. Many organizations have taken it upon themselves to take action to help save Planet Earth.

There is still much to be done and we all should do our part. Making small lifestyle changes can make a difference.

  • Driving less or carpooling will limit the amount of fuel being emitted into the air.
  • Reduce, Reuse, Recycle will limit the amount of waste. Remember trash has to be dealt with and no matter how it is disposed, it causes harm to the planet.
  • Go solar, solar energy is more of a reality now then in years past.
  • Plant a tree, they not only give oxygen but take in carbon dioxide.

This very short list is just a start but there is so much more you can do to help our planet. It is up to us all to make a mindful decision to be a part of the solution and not the problem. President Barack Obama states, “climate change, its a threat that may define the contours of this century more than just about anything else.” How will you contribute towards stopping Global Warming? Our future depends on it!

 

 

About our Author:

Felecia is an educator and a blogger. She is working on her debut children’s chapter book Trudy, Swimming Against the Odds due out July 2015. Felecia resides in Hollywood, FL. bewareofed@blogspot.com

Felecia Tucker M.Ed

7 Fears a Woman has of Marriage-by Kimberly Jasper

Everyone knows that men are terrified of commitment, but it’s a little-known fact that women are as well. Most men may even think that women are always trying to trap them into marriage, and that is simply not the case. Women have just as many fears, if not more, than men do. Here are seven fears that women have when it comes to marriage.

1. HIS MOTHER
What is it about his mother that has the wife so afraid? Becoming just like her one day. Every wife wants to be her own woman, not a replica of his mother. She did her job, and now it’s time for the wife to do hers. Not simply pick up where his mother left off, but to begin a new venture with her husband by her side. Two Queen Bees cannot exist in the same hive, so he should protect his hive by allowing his wife to be the only Queen. A mother’s advice is always welcome, but it is not the law, and a wife simply needs room to find her own way.

2. THEY’LL HAVE TO BECOME INSTANT HOMEMAKERS
When the two first met, he did his own laundry, cleaned up after himself, and even prepared an occasional meal or two. Now that the Honeymoon is over, she is thrust into the “homemaker” role. No longer cleaning up after himself, no help with the dishes, or household chores, all of a sudden he is totally helpless, and a terrible housemate. The expectation that the wife will now take care of everything is unfair, she did not sign up to be Molly Maid. She just wants respect as a wife; homemaking will come naturally, and on her own terms.

3. HE WON’T FIND HER SEXY ANYMORE
Women are terrified that marriage will mean the end of sex as they know it. First thing to go is foreplay because now that sex is “in-house”, it’s guaranteed. Once she becomes the “wife”, the appeal is gone, and she will somehow morph into the role of his mother. Maybe it was the chase he was attracted to, and now that he’s caught her, the game is over…and so is the sex. Believe it or not, women want sex just as much, if not more, than men do. Foreplay is key, and as long as stays in effect, sex is on tap!

4. HE NO LONGER COMMUNICATES
He used to be very attentive, sending little notes or texts, now he hardly talks anymore. Of course marriage will bring about more issues, but they can be easily worked out with open communication. A couple should carve out time to discuss marital issues and he should try not to “hide” when she needs to discuss the bills, his mother, or any other problem that arises. It is the husband’s job to keep the peace, and all she needs is for him to listen and take action. He becomes King to her when there’s love in the castle.

5. HER DREAM GUY SHOWS UP
For those women not lucky enough to find their dream guy, the fear is that just when they marry Mr. Right, Mr. Dreamy will show up. It may sound superficial, but this is a real fear, same as the fear men have. Shake it off ladies; Mr. Dreamy is just an illusion! Your dream guy is exactly where he belongs…in your dreams. Don’t be lured by this apparition, this man only exists in Zane novels or Tyler Perry movies, depending on your preference.

6. HER SHOPPING DAYS ARE OVER
The whole “what’s mine is ours” thing is more terrifying for women than men think. Women fear that once they start mixing credit card and bank accounts, they will be expected to be thriftier with their spending. It may seem trivial to men, but retail therapy is very real, and is surely the cure to many of her ills. It also allows her a sense of freedom not to have to answer for a pair of shoes or another handbag. As long as her respective bills are paid and the house is taken care of, let the wife continue to get her shop on!

7. LOSS OF INDEPENDENCE AND EQUALITY
She used to go out all the time with her girls, now she has to “check in” or feels like she has to ask for permission to do what she used to do freely. Not that there shouldn’t be some couple courtesy given when hanging out, but women fear that their smartphone will become the new ball and chain. Friday nights with the boys are continued without question; the same courtesy should be afforded to her as well. Discuss this as a couple, choose one or two weekends for family, friends and relatives and reserve the other two for date nights and couple activities. This will help you stay connected as a couple and dispel the feeling that limitations are exclusive to the wife.

About Author:
Kimberly R. JasperKimberley Jasper is pursuing her Bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from the University of Houston. She is currently an accomplished self-published author of three novels, with the release of her fourth being greatly anticipated. From horror fiction with a mystical twist, to erotic thrillers, she is able to do it all with well-seasoned finesse. Kimberley gives every genre of her writing the same drive and devotion. Formerly a public-speaker, she still mentors women of all ages with a series entitled “A Woman’s Work”. She is a returning freelance writer for Sistah’s Place, Maya’s Blog Showcase, and formerly Urban Image Magazine.
Website: https://mkt.com/krjasperwrites
Twitter: @mariasdghtr
IG: @krjasperwrites
Feature Photo credit: http://www.healthyblackwoman.com/healthy-mind-how-avoiding-feelings-can-make-you-sick-like-having-festering-wounds/

 

 

Get Out -By Selena Haskins

You may have watched TV Shows like Cold Case, The First 48, or The Coroner, and many of those shows are based on real-life crimes. The investigation makes you curious and you hope that justice prevailed by the end of the episode. Well, recently, I wanted justice for two women. One was pregnant and murdered by her boyfriend and the other was pregnant as well and severely burned by her boyfriend. I said to myself, ‘why didn’t they GET OUT???’

After my anger cooled down at the men who committed these terrible acts, my mind began to analyze the subject of domestic violence. I realized it was probably not easy for those women to get out, and when one of them did leave, maybe it was too late. I absolutely loathe domestic violence, and I hate the acts of men who abuse or even kill a woman, but it also saddens me that some women choose to stay.

Stand By Your Man sang Tammy Wynette, and many women do stand by their men— with a blacked-eye and busted lip. They will defend their man even til’ his death or her own. Why? Perhaps their mothers stayed in abusive relationships or maybe they feel like they’re not smart enough or have enough money to survive on their own or they’re too afraid to leave. To quote a character from my book, A River Moves Forward, “the only excuse for a man who abuses women are the ones we give him.” Pray for the courage to leave, educate yourself, learn to make your own decisions, and to say NO to others without regrets. The more a woman can do for herself, the less she will have to depend on a man. Gone are the days of yesterday when he once romanticized you in a cunning way. What’s the reality?

An abusive man may have seemed sweet, kind, and respectful, but if a woman plays the scenes of yesterday all the way through in her mind, she just may notice some red flags that she missed. What should a woman do when she sees the red flags? Should she wait it out? Time won’t change a man the man must change himself, and he can only do that if he recognizes he has a problem and is willing to seek help. Remember, an abusive man is a sick man. You cannot heal him. The longer you stay in an abusive relationship, the harder it will be to leave.

Men who abuse women may have been abused themselves or witnessed domestic violence in their household. They may have also experienced a really bad break up and believe that if they allow themselves to be vulnerable again, that a woman will take advantage of him, so he becomes controlling. His control makes him feel powerful, and then he starts to become verbally abusive, and the verbal abuse leads to physical abuse, and ultimately the physical abuse leads to murder. Whatever other reasons psychologically or via his experiences in life, it is still NO excuse for him to abuse a woman, and he should seek help immediately!  In the meantime, be more concerned about your safety and your own life. Here is a list of some red flags you should not ignore.

  • Possessive and obsessive behavior – He wants to know your every move. Acts suspicious of others, especially other men. He isolates you from friends and family by having you cancel events or visits with them. He pays for everything including your rent, but it’s only to control what you wear or what you do.
  • Gets easily angry over little things.
  • Smacks you, because you made him jealous or didn’t do what he said, and then he showers you with more gifts and promises not to do it again.
  • He insists on having his way and does not compromise or consider your needs and feelings.
  • Abuses drugs or alcohol, and his abuse worsen while under the influence.
  • Threatens to kill you or himself if you leave.
  • He has a history of abusing women or violent criminal record.
  • He is always the victim. Nothing is his fault; it’s yours or somebody else’s.

GET OUT! Seek help from a family member or trusted friend. Call the domestic violence Hotline for professional guidance on this matter: 1-800-799-7233.

Photo Credits:  Pinterest board: articles.familylobby.com

Writer:  Selena Haskin

Selena-1058She is a native Washington who enjoys music, spirituality, basketball, and spending quality time with her family. As a young girl, Selena always had a vivid imagination, and would tell make-believe stories to her friends. As a teenager, Selena begin to journal her personal thoughts, and write poetry. Before long, her talent for writing was recognized by her high school English teacher, who encouraged her to write articles for the school newspaper. The articles motivated Selena to write many stories and essays, mostly as a hobby. After completing high school, Selena would major in English at Johnson C. Smith University, and the University of the District of Columbia

Website: http://www.booksbyselena.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorselena.haskins?ref=bookmarks

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Wake Up by Toni Larue

“Don’t be in such a hurry to condemn a person because he doesn’t do what you do, or think as you think or as fast. There was a time when you didn’t know what you know today.” ~Malcolm X

What does it mean to be woke?

Does it mean that I’m against my people when I don’t buy everything from Black owned businesses? Am I an insult to my people when I wear weaves and artificial nails? Am I the enemy for having friends of different racial backgrounds?  Am I not woke because I believe in the political system, economic system??? Am I not woke because I don’t think every decision made for me or against me is because of the color of my skin?

I know this article is different from previous, but I felt that is was relevant because mindset plays a huge role in how successful we are as a community, whether it be financial, physical, mental and/or spiritual.

I had a discussion with some friends about what it meant to be conscious and It amazed me how many definitions, some I listed above, that people had. Like the feminist movement, a plethora of definitions consume the actual meaning. It gets buried in the quick sand and before you know it everyone is living their own definition of WOKE.

I’d like to think I’m woke.  I am aware of systematic racism and oppression that hinders the development and growth of my people. I try to do my part by using my platforms, supporting my people in their endeavors and educating them on solutions that we need to conquer collectively. However, I’m nothing like the top tier of WOKE people like Brother Polight and Red Pill and Blue pill and many more, but does that make me less of an influence? Or does is work like your carbon footprint? With every bottle you recycle you make the world a better place?

I’m telling you guys, I searched the net and YouTube and anything else I could find to give an accurate definition of what it meant to be woke and what I got was a matter of perspective and perception.

So, like many other people, I’ve come to my own conclusion (lol). The two quotes I included are from Malcolm X and Angela Davis, both these individuals did their part for the betterment of the Black community. But they weren’t perfect. They weren’t perfect and they made an impression in our future. So, I’m saying all this to say…do your part but don’t worry about how woke you are because you can never be something that isn’t clearly defined.

“I’m not longer accepting the things I cannot change…I’m changing the things I cannot accept.” ~ Angela Davis

 

There is Beauty in EVERYTHING by Simone Carter

“I think there is beauty in everything. What ‘normal’ people would perceive as ugly, I can usually see something of beauty in it.”  Alexander McQueen

She is beautiful with every curve and every curve speaks LOUD. Size 18 with 38 waist honey those numbers don’t define you. Plus size, full figured honey those are not your name.  You are beautifully curvaceous. Don’t measure your beauty by someone else’s definition of beauty or standards. Oh no because today’s  society doesn’t live up to its own dimensions let alone their real measurements.

She is beautiful with every curve and every curve speaks LOUD.  Be that courageous woman, not hiding behind black because the trend of the day says black makes you look slimmer. Oh no, wear those LOUD colors that match your essences and enhance all of you.

You are beautiful with every curve and every curve speaks LOUD so why do you allow people to silence you?

 

photo credit: Pinterest board Trendy Curves.com

 

FIVE SIGNS HE’S NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE by Kimberly R. Jasper

It’s not always a matter of whether or not he’s into you.

A man can be really into you, and still not be ready for that big commitment.  It started out as a fling for him, he thought you were cool, great in bed, and generally great to be around.  But he was in no way thinking marriage.  You hinted, suggested, and finally flat out asked him, maybe an ultimatum was involved.  However you managed to get him to agree to take that walk down the aisle, please take into consideration that the only one who really stands to lose, is you.  If a man is ill-equipped in a relationship, there will be many growing pains as he stumbles along the way in a marriage.  Here are five signs you need to watch out for before dragging him down the aisle.

  1. HE STILL ACTS SINGLE

He sees nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting, and genuinely enjoys the attention of other women.  First off, there is no such thing as “harmless” flirting when you’re in a relationship.  His need for female attention says more about how he feels about himself, than his feelings for you.  If he tells you that he loves “women”, and can’t quite take the plural out of the equation, then he is definitely not the one for you.  It does not matter how long the two of you have been together, being forced into a serious relationship is not likely going to make him change.  There’s nothing but heartbreak and infidelity for you down that road, steer clear.  Let him go, and wait for the one who is ready for what you want.

  1. HE’S SELFISH

Ok, so we’re all a little selfish to some degree, there is nothing at all wrong with that.  But a selfish man is no good in any kind of relationship, since all relationships require lots of giving and sharing.  That includes, time, family, money, and himself.  If he can’t give any of those things, then you are alone in your relationship.  When you find that he is more into himself than he is into you, that is a bad sign, and does not make for a blissful future.  All relationships are give and take, but if you are doing all the giving, and he’s doing all the taking, that is just a recipe for disaster.  A man who is serious about you will give freely, without you having to ask.

  1. INCONSIDERATE OF YOUR TIME

A stable man with a full life will be considerate of your time, because he will be effectively spending his as well.  If he’s always working or out hanging out with his boys, but wants you to drop everything whenever he decides it’s your turn, that is not a sign of a good long-term partner.  A good partner will value you and your time.  He will find time to spend with you that does not cause an inconvenience.  He will make sure that you are a priority right along with his career, friends and family.  If he does not or cannot make you a priority, then he is not ready.  Never make someone a priority that treats you like an option.

  1. HE DOESN’T DISCUSS A FUTURE WITH YOU

He does not discuss the future with you, and when he does, there is always something missing.  You.  It does not take a man as long to figure it out as we are often led to believe.  Just like us, they know instantly if they can “see” themselves with you long term.  He may not instantly think “marriage”, but he will instantly think in terms of longevity.  Men have an image of the ideal wife, just as we have an image of the ideal husband.  If you do not fit that image, he will know it right away.  He may not readily clue you in, but he’ll know it, and it will show up every time he discusses a future that does not include you.  A man who sees a future with you, and is ready to take it to the next step, will speak in those terms.

  1. SEX IS ALWAYS ABOUT HIM

Before walking down the aisle, remember that this will be your partner for life.  The last man you will ever sleep with.  You’d better make sure that he can properly take care of your physical needs.  If he is a selfish lover, that’s not ever going to change.  A giving sexual partner is not a technique that can be taught, either he is or he isn’t.  If foreplay is nonexistent, and he spends the entire five minutes only ensuring his own pleasure, then it is only a matter of time before you will become sexually frustrated.  Seven out of ten arguments between couples can be solved with great sex, or even a good quickie.  Maybe eight.  If he is not handling his business “down there”, then he’s not handling it anywhere.  Marriage is no place for the selfish.  Sex will not be the only place it will show up, but I guarantee it will be the source of every fight between you.

About Author:

Kimberly R. JasperKimberley Jasper is pursuing her Bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from the University of Houston. She is currently an accomplished self-published author of three novels, with the release of her fourth being greatly anticipated. From horror fiction with a mystical twist, to erotic thrillers, she is able to do it all with well-seasoned finesse.  Kimberley gives every genre of her writing the same drive and devotion.  Formerly a public-speaker, she still mentors women of all ages with a series entitled “A Woman’s Work”.  She is a returning freelance writer for Sistah’s Place, Maya’s Blog Showcase, and formerly Urban Image Magazine.

Website: https://mkt.com/krjasperwrites

Twitter: @mariasdghtr

IG: @krjasperwrites

Feature Photo credit: http://bruthamag.com/2014/03/04/can-she-propose/

 

 

55 Ways by Felecia Tucker

Stepping outside this morning I felt a bit encouraged as I began my drive to school. With each passing day things get better and better as I learn how to manage 55 students. It has not come easy but with many nights researching and studying ways to maintain control and be an effective educator, the strategies seem to be working.

At my former school I enjoyed smaller class sizes, technology at my fingertips, an abundance of resources, and support from a great team. My students worked hard and test scores revealed the advantages of smaller class sizes. This year I have two tracks of students one of the groups has a total of 31, the other one has 25 and the count seems to be rising as the days progress. As an educator my heart goes out to the many teachers who struggle with these same numbers and the lack of support. We are expected to perform miracles with classes that have over 25 students. But we come back every year, the average person may say I couldn’t do it, but I say if I don’t then who?

Prayerfully, I arrive everyday determined to make a mark on the minds and hearts of our youth. I meet parents all the time that should be still in school themselves and yet they are responsible for raising a child. There have been times when I want to walk away, but that one kid  keeps me going back. So keep us teachers in your prayers and support us as we hold the future in our hands.  Today when a friend asked how my day was going I smiled and replied 55 ways.

Author Bio:

pic-tuckerFelecia is an educator and a blogger. She is working on her debut children’s chapter book Trudy, Swimming Against the Odds due out July 2015. Felecia resides in Hollywood, FL. bewareofed@blogspot.com

 

 

Friday Feature-Deceitful Secrets

It’s awesome to have our creator Letrise Carter feature her debut novel on Maya’s Blog.  Letrise has taken the first steps of launching her first novella in the series Deceitful Secrets scheduled for release date pushed to September 18, 2017 with pre-orders and e-book available August 31, 2017.

Get ready to meet the Taylor Jackson, Devin Jackson, and Devin Jackson in this drama filled series that has mystery intertwined to keep on your toes.  The story came to Letrise in a dream and it’s been a two year journey to give birth to this story about a woman with a past that can be detrimental to her marriage.  Each of the characters identity and reason for existence came to life a eight months ago.  With the guidance, mentorship, and direction of Toni Larue the story of Deceitful Secrets came to life. 

About Deceitful Secrets:
Secrets have a way of making its way to the surface in the present day. However, when those secrets involve a family member, they’re no longer just secrets instead they are Deceitful Secrets that you take to bed each night. Meet Taylor Jackson whose friendship with her husband’s brother Kelly goes deeper than the eyes. Will Devin find out about his wife’s past? Will Kelly keep his promise to carry their secret to his grave? How will Devin react if he finds out the truth? But wait Devin has some secrets of his own. What’s done in the dark has a way of making its way to the light… but at what costs? Who gets hurt? Deceitful Secrets is filled with drama, lies, and cover ups.

Letrise is planning a book launch and scheduling interviews to promote her novel.  She will be giving away copies of her novel come September and October to her followers on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.  She is an aspiring screenwriter taking classes to hone her gift in the trade of screenwriting.

You can read the first 3 chapters on her website at www.letrisecarter.com and be sure to sign up for her newsletter for special gifts and offers to her subscribers only.  She will post details for up coming interviews and magazine features in her author e-blast.  Have you signed up yet?

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Tick, Tock, Tick, Tock- Are you out of Time? by Nancy Collins

We’re now in the middle of August, and before you know it the temperatures will become cooler.  From the onset of 2017 you’ve had great plans.  You renewed your gym membership, yet stopped going after 2 weeks.  The spring cleaning in your home has been completed, but no one can tell.  Because it’s looking like a storage space again.  Several dating apps have been downloaded onto your phone, and yet all men are dogs.  Well don’t give up now.  There’s still 4 more full months before you enter into 2018.  You still have time to accomplish some great things.

So what you’ve gained weight instead of losing it.  You are not alone!  So what your home is a replica of a tornado.  At least you know where everything is located!  Do not let any mishaps, or the success of others; deter you from getting started today.  Those same persons whom you may be admiring, has (more than likely) put in some long days & nights.  If you were to be honest with yourself, you just made up your mind; to become serious about your pursuits. 

So therefore you’re not going to be as far along as they are.  Calm down.  Take an inventory of where you’re at.  Make note of where you want to be.  Start researching on how to get there.  Stop telling yourself that you know what steps to take, in order to reach your goal.  Because if you did, you would already be there!  You’ve tried several methods, and that’s why you’re still stuck.  So find those persons who are successful in what you’re trying to do, and take notes!  Connect on social media, use the search engine, watch YouTube videos, do something to make this year; one of your best years yet! 

Four months, four full months for you to buckle down and become serious.  Pick up the pace!  Stop carousing the internet and get down to business!!  Whatever it takes, whatever you need to make your dreams into a reality, DO IT!!  It doesn’t matter who laughed at your ideas.  Work your ideas and laugh all the way to the bank.  This has been your source of encouragement.  If you don’t make the next four months work for you, then it’s a huge possibility that you didn’t want it to work for you.  Sounds harsh?  Well it’s much harsher to realize, that year after year someone else, is living your dreams.

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