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Relationships 101 By Nancy Collins

Relationships today end quicker than a sew-in weave, at a beauty shop on a Friday night.  By the time you introduce your significant other to your best friend, the relationship is over.  You’re back on the dating website, he’s taking pictures with someone else and posting them on social media.  What could possibly go wrong, that causes people to end romantic relationships, before they even get started?  Well I believe there are a few reasons, as to why this happens to so many great women.

Before attempting to seriously date someone, here are a few steps that I think we should follow.

1)     FOLLOW YOUR GUT INSTICTS:  Do you get a weird feeling about the guy?  That’s your internal alarm telling you, to leave him alone!!!  Don’t sit around waiting for something spectacular to happen.  Get out of there.  Whatever it is about the guy, trust your instincts, it’s something you don’t need in your life.  Smile and move on.

2)     ASK QUESTIONS:  You’ll never find the answers, if you don’t ask questions.  When you’re thinking of being in a relationship with someone, you have every right to ask questions.  Ask the type of questions, which will require an in depth answer.  Not just a simple yes or no answer.  You don’t want to waste your time with a person, who’s not going in the same direction as you.  Side note: If he becomes upset at your questioning, you might want to run!

3)     PAY ATTENTION TO HIS ACTIONS: I always say “let observation be your friend.”  Don’t get so caught up in how attractive he is, what he drives, his position on the job, that you miss who he truly is.  Does he reach out to you on a consistent basis?  How does he treat the waiter/waitress at the restaurant, who may be a little nervous?  How does he treat his mother?  A person’s action will sometimes tell you more, than the answers he’s giving you.  Take the blindfold off, and pay attention!!

4)     KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF:  When dating someone new, stop expecting them to “foot” the bill, for all of your expenses.  Were you a shopaholic, before becoming serious with him?  Was he paying your bills before he became, the official man in your life?  If you answered “NO!” to either one of those questions, then put your hands back in your pockets. 

Now let me be clear.  There’s nothing wrong with a man, wanting to spoil his lady.  As a matter of fact it is to be commended.  Also, if a guy is interested in the woman he’s dating, it’s okay to make her feel secure w/him (financially).  However, there’s a difference between a man wanting to do something financially for his woman, versus a woman who’s always in his pockets.  When a woman does that, it doesn’t prove whether or not if he’s a man.  Yet, it will prove that the woman is merely interested in his pockets. 

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Author Bio:

 Nancy L. CollinsNancy L. Collins is the owner and creator of Your Beauty w/NancyCollins285 aka YourBeauty285.  Under the umbrella of Your Beauty w/NancyCollins285, lies her Creative Ghostwriting business, blog posting, small business marketing, personal consulting, and two upcoming books (to be released in December 2017).  Nancy resides in Atlanta, Georgia with her two children. 

 

Why is Everybody Mad? By Selena Haskins

At least once a month, I shut off all media platforms so I can think, meditate and focus on getting important work done. In our society, taking a break to regain a sense of calm and peace is important. It’s easy to become inundated with the political, social, and economic debacles that affect our lives on a daily basis. Naturally, people are concerned about various matters and initiating dialogue through various media is a way to inspire change. However, the manner in which we communicate our concerns is not always palatable. In fact, people have become very angry about not only the things that have caused distress, but they’re mad about trivial subjects, opinions, and preferences.  

In our world, social media has become our main method of communication, and the platform is an open floodgate of angry debates. The saying, ‘some things are better left unsaid’ is no longer true. People have become loose cannons, exploding hateful words against other races, religions, genders, sexual orientation, and people with opposing political views. Whether you agree or disagree, it is easy to become a target of someone else’s anger.

Sadly, TV and radio have perpetuated the anger we see in some people today. Some people already have a short fuse caused by the stresses of life or simply because they like being angry for attention. Ratchet TV shows of women fighting and arguing with each other over a man while he’s sitting back eating popcorn, for example, have become the norm for some people to watch and engage in conversation about it. Public radio stations, some of which that are struggling to stay afloat with online radio stations, often invite listeners to call in and share their opinions. At times, this has only provoked more anger about the subject instead of encouraging callers to share what they think the solution to the problem would be.   

The news also sensationalizes tragic events that can make others sad or angry. There was a time when the news would report a shooting, but now they air the actual footage. These have triggered rage, and have caused racial wars.  

So, what can we do? We’ll always have various forms of media that’ll show the good and the bad of people. While we can’t control others we can control ourselves. If we know we’re sensitive about certain subjects it’s best to steer away from it. Yes, we must be informed about what’s going on around us, but we don’t have to engage in the news every day.

We can do our part by counteracting the negative angry behaviors of others by being positive. Why not share more stories that display the positivity of the human spirit, such as a fireman rescuing an elderly woman or a child with a physical disability winning the Special Olympics. Our coffee room talk doesn’t have to spark an angry debate; it can be filled with humor or the pleasantries that can motivate a good day.

 

About Selena Haskins

Selena-1058She is a native Washington who enjoys music, spirituality, basketball, and spending quality time with her family. As a young girl, Selena always had a vivid imagination, and would tell make-believe stories to her friends. As a teenager, Selena begin to journal her personal thoughts, and write poetry. Before long, her talent for writing was recognized by her high school English teacher, who encouraged her to write articles for the school newspaper. The articles motivated Selena to write many stories and essays, mostly as a hobby. After completing high school, Selena would major in English at Johnson C. Smith University, and the University of the District of Columbia

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Introducing Contributor writer Selena Haskins

Maya’s Blog Showcase is pleased to introduce one of our newest monthly contributors Selena Haskins.  Read her Bio below and visit her website to learn more about her, read her blogs, and review her latest novels.  Follow her on social media to keep up with what is happening with her projects.   Selena’s first article will get you thinking about your self-awareness and the media.

Are you ready for some thought provoking articles that will empower and inspire you?     Welcome Selena Haskins.  Her bio is taken from her website at www.booksbyselena.com .

About Selena Haskins:

She is a native of Washington who enjoys music, spirituality, basketball, and spending quality time with her family. As a young girl, Selena always had a vivid imagination, and would tell make-believe stories to her friends. As a teenager, Selena begin to journal her personal thoughts, and write poetry.

Before long, her talent for writing was recognized by her high school English teacher, who encouraged her to write articles for the school newspaper. The articles motivated Selena to write many stories and essays, mostly as a hobby. After completing high school, Selena would major in English at Johnson C. Smith University, and the University of the District of Columbia.

Selena Haskins is the author of three bestselling books on Amazon: A River Moves Forward, Riding the Waves, and Just Between Us-Inspiring Stories by Women. Her latest novel, Yesterday Was a Long Time Ago was released May 30, 2017Her novels continues to explore the central theme of all of Selena’s books, namely, love and the power of forgiveness.

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Introducing Contributor Writer Nancy Collins

Maya’s Blog Showcase is pleased to introduce one of our newest monthly contributors Nancy Collins.  Read her Bio below and visit her website to check out her business.  Follow her on social media to keep up with what is happening with her and her book release in December 2017.  Nancy will be writing about relationships tips and motivation.

Get ready for some great articles that will guide you in your relationships and motivation to keep you positive.   Welcome Nancy Collins.

Bio – Nancy Collins (YourBeauty285)

Hello, my name is Nancy Collins.  Atlanta, Georgia is where I reside with my two children, and millions of others, who hate the never ending traffic, but love the warm weather.  I am the owner, & creator of Your Beauty w/NancyCollins285.  This company was founded with the purpose to push women to become greater, than who they were –yesterday!!!

We are not our mistakes!  We are not what others think of us!  We are not just someone’s sexual fantasy!  We are more than breast, hips, and thighs!  We are educators, mothers, entrepreneurs, counselors, and so much more!!  We make the world go around, at the perfect speed.

With my background in teaching pre-k, I am enthused to instruct other women, on how to be better!!  Today’s version of what a real woman is, has been corrupted by videos and old thinking.  I’m here to change that.

Under the umbrella of Your Beauty w/NancyCollins285 (aka YourBeauty285), lies my Creative Ghostwriting business, blog posting, small business marketing, personal consulting, and two upcoming books (to be released in December 2017).

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Why are we Broke, Black People? By Toni Larue

“Dr. King organized the Poor People’s Campaign in 1968 to shut down Washington, D.C. and force legislators to tackle poverty. His efforts to shift focus from civil to silver rights were interrupted by his untimely death. He fought ardently for Black rights, but he also recognized financial literacy as the key to an America that was truly free for all people”. ~John Hope Bryant

Every Black family should invest in a family business. I believe in that statement and in fact I’ve been working on making it happen. I have several independent businesses that I own with my husband but wanted to widen the opportunities.

I reached out to my family and my husband’s side of the family and the discussion I had with them led to the following article. Why are Black people broke? I received a plethora of responses to why people think our community is lacking financial prosperity. I’m going to highlight a few of those claims:

Every generation starts from scratch: Some of us are lucky to enter the world with a financial head start. It could a be trust fund, a home, stocks and bonds, a large sum of money to invest, something that gives you an edge over the rest. Unfortunately, most Black generations are forced to start from scratch because the generations before us left us with nothing.

I stumbled across this article online called, African Americans Face Financial Challenges (2013), that proposed a reason it’s difficult for Black families to get ahead. “Family responsibilities weigh heavy in the African American community.

Some 40 percent of African American households are headed by women with no partner or spouse, compared to 26 percent of female-only heads of household in the general population. On top of that, 33 percent of African American households are financially supporting children and grandchildren younger than 18, and 9 percent are supporting parents or grandparents. In the general population, only 25 percent support children younger than 18 and 4 percent support parents or grandparents” (Phipps,2013)

Lacking Financial literacy: Before you think of building generational wealth one thing to pass down is financial literacy. What good would it do to pass down a fortune to someone who doesn’t understand how money works? They will only run through the wealth you’ve acquired, leaving the generation that follows, high and dry.

Fixed Income: A fixed income isn’t just associated with people who collect social security, disability, etc… Fixed income is correlated with receiving one income from one source. In order to build generational wealth, we must acquire various streams of income (that can be passed down). It is not enough depending on a job to provide you with overtime in order to increase your income. Never allow one person or employer to control whether or not your family eats. Be in control of your earnings.

Integration and not supporting Black Business: I wrote an article a while ago about integration being the demise of Black wealth. I believe that our need to assimilate has destroyed our need to support our own people.  Psychologically, there is a lot that we must work on as a community to understand why it is hard for us to support our own people but for now seek out some Black owned businesses and support them.

“One Generation Plants the Trees; another gets the shade”. ~Chinese Proverb

 References

Phipps, Jennie L. (May 21,2013). African Americans face financial challenges. Retrieved from http://www.bankrate.com/financing/retirement/African-americans-face-financial-challenges/

 Author bio:

Toni Larue

author-Toni-LarueToni has new novels out titled No Kissing that is available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Toni+larue+now+kissing

 

Photo Credits:  Multi-generational Wealth. Digital image. 4 Keys to Building Generation Wealth. October 26th, 2015. Web. April 17th, 2017.http://www.billionairebelief.com/4-keys-to-building-generational-wealth/

 

Your Patience is Key-By Charlotte Croom Martin

In a world filled with so much going on where do we find the time to have some patience? This is a question that a select few people are asking themselves. 

We can take a tour bus ride through New York City and see just how much patience is displayed. For example, we see a group of ladies trying to cross the street before the light turn red, but here is a taxi cab driver trying to make a turn at the same corner where the ladies are trying to cross the street. 

So where is the patience here I ask myself. Here is another senior you are in the checkout   line at Walmart and there are two customers ahead of you, they are smiling and talking to the cashier as they are making their purchase and then you say  out loud enough for them to hear, “can we speed up the talking some of us got to go to work.” Again, where is your patience?

In our everyday life, we can be busy at times but we should find some patience along the way at the right time. If we don’t know how to show patience, how do we expect for people to have patience when we just may need it? Here are just some of the places where your patience are needed; on the job when we are dealing with co-workers and our boss. 

At home, we especially need here because we are dealing with our front line important people in our lives. When the children need help with homework or projects that has a dead line. Another one is in our marriage sometimes partners do not always see eye to eye on every issue and we got to have patience that that partner will come around. 

Last is learning to have patience when you are asking God to help you get out of a mess that you put yourself into. Now you know you been in that thing for a while so be patience and wait for the answer from him. To many times we move before God on a situation and mess things up for ourselves.

In the Old Testament in the bible, God was patiently waiting for Israel to choose to obedience but they kept sinning in his face. God gave them ample opportunity to stop sinning and turn towards him but they didn’t so he withdraw his protection from them until they would cry out and return to him. 

So if God is still showing us patience and he is; therefore, let’s show patience for one another on the face of the Earth. With Holidays  approaching us we need to think about patience along the way. Many of us will be out hustling through the Malls and streets trying to buy this and that for our love ones. 

Take time to have patience while waiting in the long line at the grocery store or at the Mall. The truth of the matter is when you have patience and wait on certain things in your life you will get the right job or the right mate and not just any mate. 

Patience is key when we are operating with other people. Not only that but it makes a person feel good because you can display patience when others can’t. This world was not always in the fast pace lane but because of the technology today we want things when we want them and sometimes that is not good.

Sometimes it is good to let things come to you naturally not so much in a hurry. Where would we be if God did not have patience with us today? 

Sit back and think about your day, did you show patience today? What if your husband was not patience with you, wouldn’t you feel some kind of way? Or our boss if they never showed patience, you probably wouldn’t be working there much long.  

We are humans so we will make mistakes along the way. But we can try to do what is right and what we know is right to others. Maybe patience does not mean a thing to you and you care not to show patience. Well that is fine also but we hope nothing will ever happen to you where you will want someone to have patience with you. This is the thing if you are in the field of servicing, you need patience. 

Some jobs more than others need people to have patience. It only takes a few seconds to display patience to your brother or sister or even your neighbor. Just by you showing patience will make someone day especially if they are not having such of a good day.

Author’s Bio

Charlotte Croom Martin is a self-publish author in North Carolina. She works for one of the largest retail stores Walmart. She is known for her smile that brings you to smile. Her 2013 book “In The Stranger’s House” earned her air time on bctv. org as a guest for a topic called”Matters Of CONCERN”.

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Are you given yourself a chance for change? by Shanikqa Canty

Here is a deep thought today, have you given yourself a chance to change?  Often times, we try to make ourselves comfortable in situation that we know are bound to change.    Maybe just the thought of being attached to “something” or “someone” makes life easier for some reason. But when you are on a journey of growth you will never be comfortable.

You can become content…YES! Every day we are growing and changing! And people, places, and opportunities that serve us no purpose can’t go with us. So, why are we holding on to these things that serve no purpose?

  I know it’s hard…some of us don’t like change…but sometimes change is a good thing. Why, change allows us to grow emotionally, physically, and spiritually.  I know that’s a saying a lot of us hear at times but it is true! I feel that if we don’t give ourselves room for change in our life.

 We aren’t really living. Life is about a journey of ever constant growing and moving forward. No need to become stuck where you are, especially if you aren’t operating in your hearts desires. Give yourself a chance for change to take place in your life! And I can guarantee you. You will love it! Be mindful of the changes but watch and see!!

Author Bio

shanikqaShanikqa N. Canty is a young 20+ year old originally from Brooklyn, New York and now resides in Orlando, Florida. Canty is a Amazon 2x Best Selling Author, Writer and Creative Clarity Coach. This past spring of 2016 God laid it on Shanikqa’s heart to become the Visionary Founder of the Success 4 Singles Network. Canty is also a certified life coach and public speaker through the American Union of NLP. Shanikqa’s passion is assuring men and women (young or old) to rise out of the ashes and to tell their story. 

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Is the Stock Market the new Black Market? By Toni Larue

 “Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life is: Could have, might have, and should have.

~Louis E Boone

 Growing up, I never heard my mother or grandmother talk about investing in stocks. It was something those “lucky” people did. So, I always thought that the stock market was for rich, White people.

I was introduced to the stock market my senior year of high school. I had to take Economics to graduate. My teacher, (Geesh! I can’t even remember his name) has the entire class buying and trading stocks for a whole semester.

Of course, we weren’t using real money but the experience of choosing stocks and using my fake money to purchase them and checking to see if what I chose increased or decreased every day, stimulated something inside my brain.

I wish I could say that, that experience opened my eyes to where I believed the sky was the limit…. but it didn’t. I saw the stock market as a fun challenge, a game. I saw it as a fun class project. No matter, how much I enjoyed it or understood it, in the back of my mind, it still wasn’t for someone like me.

It wasn’t until I got much older and start seeing regular people, people who looked like me actually utilizing the stock market, that it registered…hey I can do it too.

I’ve learned a lot about the stock market and I wanted to share a few tips

YOU DON’T NEED A LOT OF MONEY

There are millions of stocks to choose from, some are more expensive than others but there is something for everyone. One of the major misconceptions is that you need a large sum of money to invest. That’s a lie! You can start off by investing $5 a month and increase it as you can. Sure, initially it won’t make you a millionaire but that $5 will turn in to $10, will turn in to $20. See where I’m going with this?

USE COMMON SENSE

Do you need a stock broker? Nope! A stock broker isn’t necessary, just follow the market and use your common sense.  A man told me once, all he does is watch the parking lots. If they’re full, he buys. I wouldn’t be that relaxed about it (lol) but I saw his point. It’s common sense.

Take Home Depot stock for instance. I would buy a Home Depot stock in the winter. Why? Because the stock will be at a low-point. Once the spring and summer start rolling along those stocks will rise. Why? Because people work on their houses when the weather is better.

Investing in the stock market might seem scary. As a little girl, I was terrified of escalators until I rode on one and realized it allowed me to get to my destination faster and less out of breath. The moral of the story is we’re all scared of the unknown. Which leads me to my next tip:

EDUCATE YOURSELF

Please don’t read this article and throw your hard-earned money into the stock market. Educate yourself on the different stock options available. How do you expect to make an educated decision on what stock to choose if you’re not familiar with it?

My tips for the stock market are vague and that is on purpose. I want to motivate you but you have to do the work. Explore the wonderful world of the stock market. And remember people that look us US…we invest in the stock market too.

One of the very nice things about investing in the stock market is that you learn about all different aspects of the economy. It’s your window into a very large world. ~Ron Chernow

Check out this video for more inspiration

Photo Credits

For image:Boom. Digital images. The Stock Market Boomed but Most Black People didn’t benefit. February 09th, 2017. http://financialjuneteenth.com/the-stock-market-boomed-but-most-black-people-didnt-benefit/

 

Author Bio:

Toni Larueauthor-Toni-Larue

Toni Larue is an author, entrepreneur and women’s empowerment advocate. She is the author of fiction novels, Abandoned Secrets (available now) and No Kissing (available now), and the co-owner and COO of Team Jon Doe Management and Entertainment and Sounwave Music.

http://www.teamjondoe.com

Her newest novel is now available on amazon at

 

 

Betsy DeVos as Secretary of Education, Really? By Felecia Tucker

After the confirmation of Betsy DeVos  as the Secretary of Education, I was both frustrated and quite frankly a bit perturbed. I can’t be the only one that notices this person is not qualified to lead the department of education! She has the resume of a lobbyist, not of an educator.

Historically, she has been a proponent of school choice meaning private and charter schools and also school vouchers. She has been successful in Michigan with more charter schools in the country other than New Orleans. These schools are run by for profit business people who are perpetually competing for every dollar that the state gives to children to attend school.

The problem is less then 15% of students that graduate from these schools are considered college ready. The schools are failing, most of them do no better than traditional public schools and yet they are still creating them, in contrast the school population in Michigan is shrinking every year.

After knowing the history of DeVos, I am seriously concerned.  One of my prodigious interest is that DeVos will try to impose the re-purposing of $20 billion that is currently used to support Title I, to subsidize private schools. Inner city or low income schools need these funds to operate day to day. Taking this money will not only effect teachers, support staff, supplies, and programs that assist our students but it will hurt them academically. The education gap will once again widen and our lowest performing schools will fall further behind.

 As citizens and tax payers what can be done to save the future of our students, our schools, and our communities? Well for starters become informed with who is elected as your representative (click here to find yours.) Begin to advocate for this $20 billion, by calling, texting, tweeting, and emailing your congress person. Finally, when midterm elections come up next year 2018, all house seats will be up for re-election and on the ballot.

If your congress person or any local, state or national representative is not supporting your interest then it’s time to replace them. Please don’t sit back allow this to happen to our children. Betsy DeVos’ track record corroborates the notion that she only cares about the bottom  line and it is very clear that it is not our children.

Contributing Writer

Felecia Tucker M.Ed

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PSY-CHO-NEG-RO-SIS by Toni Larue

PSY-CHO-NEG-RO-SIS

IS Willie Lynch Syndrome Still Prevalent going into 2017?

“I freed a thousand slaves. I could have freed a thousand more if only they knew they were slaves.” ~Harriet Tubman

What is Psychonegrosis? It is the mental psychosis that blocks black progression. Mindset is an important resource in someone’s life. It is the factor between those who are successful and those who fail. What I’ve seen is that many Black people have adopted a failure mentality. A mentality that causes us to be dependent on our suppressor. A mentality that causes us to hate and kill each other. A mentality that causes us to play the victim and fail as a community.

I was talking to a client of mine, speaking on life in general: How we need more Black business owners, how Black people need to support each other and how we need to accept responsibility for the part we play in our own oppression. Once I said “we need to take responsibility” I could feel the conversation tense up. He went on to explain slavery and civil rights and racism (he must not have known who he was talking too because I’m no dummy when it comes to Black issues in America…. side eye*). Once he finished speaking I let him know that I agreed with his observation; however, there comes a point when people have to start taking responsibility for their own actions.  Once you know the cause for the behavior, you can fix it. Every Black person knows the cause but no one wants to change their behavior. Physically we are free but are minds are still enslaved as if it were 300+ years ago.

In 1712, William Lynch wrote a letter to slave owners saying “divide the blacks by skin tone and you’ll control them for 300+ years. And we have proven him right.

For the new year, I want Black people to change their mentality. I want Black people to be free of mental confinement and let us work together to achieve something GREAT. We have responsibility, not only to our ancestors who fought for us but to our children and our children’s, children. It is up to us to leave a dynasty so the ones who come after us aren’t starting over. The goal…whatever it is starts with one thing…your thoughts

For the year 2017, I am going to offer you tips on how to build generational wealth; even if you feel you don’t have the entrepreneurial spirit.  Like Dr. Boyce Watkins always says, “This is not a sprint but a marathon.” Let’s make sure we have a leg in this race.

“Just because your pain is understandable, doesn’t mean your behavior is acceptable.”

~Steven Maraboli

Contributor Author:

author-Toni-Larue

Toni Larue is an author, entrepreneur and women’s empowerment advocate. She is the author of fiction novels, Abandoned Secrets (available now) and No Kissing (release date TBD), and the co-owner and COO of Team Jon Doe Management and Entertainment and Sounwave Music.

http://www.teamjondoe.com