Are you given yourself a chance for change? by Shanikqa Canty

Here is a deep thought today, have you given yourself a chance to change?  Often times, we try to make ourselves comfortable in situation that we know are bound to change.    Maybe just the thought of being attached to “something” or “someone” makes life easier for some reason. But when you are on a journey of growth you will never be comfortable.

You can become content…YES! Every day we are growing and changing! And people, places, and opportunities that serve us no purpose can’t go with us. So, why are we holding on to these things that serve no purpose?

  I know it’s hard…some of us don’t like change…but sometimes change is a good thing. Why, change allows us to grow emotionally, physically, and spiritually.  I know that’s a saying a lot of us hear at times but it is true! I feel that if we don’t give ourselves room for change in our life.

 We aren’t really living. Life is about a journey of ever constant growing and moving forward. No need to become stuck where you are, especially if you aren’t operating in your hearts desires. Give yourself a chance for change to take place in your life! And I can guarantee you. You will love it! Be mindful of the changes but watch and see!!

Author Bio

shanikqaShanikqa N. Canty is a young 20+ year old originally from Brooklyn, New York and now resides in Orlando, Florida. Canty is a Amazon 2x Best Selling Author, Writer and Creative Clarity Coach. This past spring of 2016 God laid it on Shanikqa’s heart to become the Visionary Founder of the Success 4 Singles Network. Canty is also a certified life coach and public speaker through the American Union of NLP. Shanikqa’s passion is assuring men and women (young or old) to rise out of the ashes and to tell their story. 

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Saying Farwell to President Obama & First Lady Michelle Obama

Saying farewell to President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama is bitter sweet.  It’s been eight great years with our first African American President and first family.   President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama gave us eight years of commitment, dedication, and hope that we needed as a country.  I must say they are the best that has come forth for the people of all races and ethnicities.

I remember the 2008 election like it was yesterday, tears streaming down my face and jumping for joy for such a historic moment.  Watching them both over these last eight years has been life changing because they kept going higher and ignored those trying to bring them down.

A President who had such swagger and a impeccable speech style like no one that demanded your attention just with his presence.  You were eager to see what he had to say and he always had a positive outlook.   I will always remember them and what they stood for the people.  In President Obama’s farewell speech he said, “Yes We Can, Yes We Did”.

Even though tears will fall and hearts will be heavy to see them leave the White House.  I know their journey is not over, there is so much more that our 44th President will go on to pursue within their own destiny.  Because of these two inspiring man and woman of God we can use them as examples to our children when they talk about their dreams and aspirations in life.  The sacrifice the two of you made to serve this country will never be forgotten.  It was an amazing eight year journey that we all will treasure forever.  A few positives moments that you will leave etched in our hearts and minds.

  1. Powerful Black Couple who shared their love with the world.
  2. Dared us all to dream and walk in your purpose.
  3. Gave us hope for the impossible to be possible.
  4. Gave us examples for our daughters to accept their beauty in their skin they treasure.
  5. Shown our kids the importance of education.
  6. You both are inspirational and empowering.
  7. Change can happen if we believe in it and use our voice.
  8. Take the high road when naysayers are hitting below the belt.
  9. Positive role models for people of all ages.
  10. Our First Lady’s Elegance and genuine Beauty.
  11. The importance of healthy eating for our children to eliminate obesity.
  12. Our President’s Swagger.

To the President Obama & First Lady Michelle Obama, thank you for giving us 8 years of service to this country.  You are greatly loved and appreciated.  You both have inspired, motivated, and empowered us to walk in purpose, stand in our truth, and gave hope to the little black girls and black boys to dream the impossible.  We love you and will miss you both.

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Reflecting on 2016 by Felicia Malone

2016 has been a trying year for all. There have been disappointments, deaths, and disasters. Not to mention the rise of the Donald. Social media posts show heartbreak over celebrity deaths. Someone has created a GoFundMe account to protect Betty White. Many people are eager to see 2016 go in hopes of a better 2017. 

If you really think about it, there have also been joys, births, and good times. Isn’t every year a mix of triumphs and disappointments? It is called life. We as humans increment the vastness of time into yearly increments. Perhaps it gives us some sense of control over the uncontrollable. The truth is – bad stuff happens and so does good. Your happiness cannot hinge on the nature of what is happening around you.

I have been cooking lately. Well, learning to cook. Yesterday, I decided to do it big. The meal planned – fried pork chops, mashed potatoes from scratch, and roasted garlic asparagus. I prepared by reading highly rated recipes. I watched how-to videos on YouTube. I was PREPARED. Armed with ingredients, knowledge, and determination – I was ready. I started cooking. Everything seemed to be going great. Food looked good, smelled even better.

After much sweat, I was finally finished. I fixed my plate. It looked good enough for Instagram. I cut into the perfectly browned pork chop. It was too salty. I felt the wind escape from my sails. I was not only cooking for myself but for my boyfriend, too. I was near tears. My friend said that is was okay. He stated that the only way to learn is to try. I began to feel less terrible.

That is my 2016 in a nutshell. It started with great aspirations. I even had a plan, a vision board even. I tried my best and still some things failed – relationships, promotion attempts, finishing my second book, weight loss. It was like those Facebook videos you watch of someone taking off in a race and then some invisible leg extends in front of them and they trip and fall. It feels like the fall is so hard because the person running was moving ahead at full-speed expecting to finish first.

I had started writing a great story based on my childhood adventures – over 10,000 words. I had written some wonderful poetry almost 30 pages worth. I went to Texas for a work conference and lost my thumb drive. Talk about tripping over an invisible leg. Man, I was hurt. Thankfully, the 10,000 words had been backed-up on the cloud. The poetry only exists in my head and heart.

I am ready to start again.

If you have been graced with another day of life, you have another chance to get it right. Some failures require some hard work. Others require some downtime for healing. No matter how comfortable, resist the urge to stay here. This place is meant to be temporary. You have to get up and keep running.

2017 is what you make of it. Start again. Be enthusiastic again. If you should fall, get back up and continue.

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Author Bio:

Felicia Malone

Felicia Michelle Malone is a published author and blogger originally from Chicago, Illinois.  She authors the lifestyle blog at www.talulazapple.com and a fitness blog at www.getfitwithfe.com. She was honored to be a semi-finalist in the Proctor & Gamble’s 2014 My Black Is Beautiful Ambassador search.   Felicia holds a Bachelor’s of Science in Journalism from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.  She also holds a Master’s of Science in Business Administration from the University of Dallas. http://www.feliciamalone.com/

 

 

 

The Conversation I had with a White Woman-by Toni Laure

THE CONVERSATION I HAD WITH A WHITE WOMAN

“Poverty is not an accident. Like slavery and [segregation], it is man-made and can be removed by the actions of human beings” ~ Nelson Mandela

First, Stacy Dash suggested that there shouldn’t be a Black History month. Then, Jada Pinkett- Smith had Black people around the world on social media like: “#Oscarssowhite”. And let’s not forget how Beyonce’ shutdown the internet with her controversial Super bowl performance causing journalist, Tomi Lahren to make claims that the Black Panther Party was a terrorist group. We’re only three months into the New Year and the “Black and White” issues are heavy on everyone’s mind, now more than ever.  I am excited that people are talking about these issues… not just Black people. With that said, I welcomed the conversation I had with a friend of mine who just so happens to be White.  For the sake of my friends privacy I will refer to her as Lisa.

My latest blog article, “Why I regret going to College” sparked a conversation between Lisa and me. She asked me why I felt the way I did. I paused, thinking of a watered down answer because I really didn’t feel like explaining “race issues” to someone who wouldn’t understand. However, I decided against it and laid out all the reason for my attitude. Long story short, I explained to her that Black people are paying for an education we won’t get to use because Black people are the last on the list to get picked for a job, owned and operated by White people. I then went on to say that Black people would benefit more if we owned and controlled our own businesses. Lisa pondered what I had to say and her response was horrifyingly….hilarious. “Well, I worked at a call center and it was mostly Black people and Mexicans. There were less than five White people working there.” Her comment took me off guard and I’ll admit, I laughed for a long time. Once I calmed down, I let stats speak for themselves.  I explained that although the unemployment rate is down across the United States, it is still astoundingly high for Black people. I won’t go into detail about these stats because this article isn’t about the African American unemployment rate. This article is about how the world see’s us.

After continuing my conversation with Lisa I realized some White people think Black’s are just whiners, throwing around the race card to get ahead. She went on to say that she knows she missed out on job opportunities because of affirmative action so she can relate to what I’m saying (errrrrr????!!!!) but she also thinks that Black people are provided with the same opportunities as White people. Lisa went on to say that slavery was a long time ago and she doesn’t understand why “We” haven’t put the past behind us. After all, we have a Black president (side eye). I wasn’t angry with Lisa’s assumptions/opinions about racism. Racial discrimination and prejudice is something she’s only read about in history books. “It’s history” to her but not for the millions of Black people who face racial adversity every day.

The moral of the story is this: I think it’s important to educate everyone about race issues in America. These issues are subtle and insidious…small systematic changes that affect the Black community and it is people like Lisa who unknowingly play a role in the progression of racial discrimination simply because she feels it doesn’t exist.

Ignorance is not bliss. Should Black people make it a priority to educate White America on racial injustice?

About author:

Toni Larue is an author, entrepreneur and women’s empowerment advocate. She is the author of fiction novels, Abandoned Secrets (available now) and No Kissing (release date TBD), and the co-owner and COO of Team Jon Doe Management and Entertainment and Sounwave Music.

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