Relationships today end quicker than a sew-in weave, at a beauty shop on a Friday night. By the time you introduce your significant other to your best friend, the relationship is over. You’re back on the dating website, he’s taking pictures with someone else and posting them on social media. What could possibly go wrong, that causes people to end romantic relationships, before they even get started? Well I believe there are a few reasons, as to why this happens to so many great women.
Before attempting to seriously date someone, here are a few steps that I think we should follow.
1) FOLLOW YOUR GUT INSTICTS: Do you get a weird feeling about the guy? That’s your internal alarm telling you, to leave him alone!!! Don’t sit around waiting for something spectacular to happen. Get out of there. Whatever it is about the guy, trust your instincts, it’s something you don’t need in your life. Smile and move on.
2) ASK QUESTIONS: You’ll never find the answers, if you don’t ask questions. When you’re thinking of being in a relationship with someone, you have every right to ask questions. Ask the type of questions, which will require an in depth answer. Not just a simple yes or no answer. You don’t want to waste your time with a person, who’s not going in the same direction as you. Side note: If he becomes upset at your questioning, you might want to run!
3) PAY ATTENTION TO HIS ACTIONS: I always say “let observation be your friend.” Don’t get so caught up in how attractive he is, what he drives, his position on the job, that you miss who he truly is. Does he reach out to you on a consistent basis? How does he treat the waiter/waitress at the restaurant, who may be a little nervous? How does he treat his mother? A person’s action will sometimes tell you more, than the answers he’s giving you. Take the blindfold off, and pay attention!!
4) KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF: When dating someone new, stop expecting them to “foot” the bill, for all of your expenses. Were you a shopaholic, before becoming serious with him? Was he paying your bills before he became, the official man in your life? If you answered “NO!” to either one of those questions, then put your hands back in your pockets.
Now let me be clear. There’s nothing wrong with a man, wanting to spoil his lady. As a matter of fact it is to be commended. Also, if a guy is interested in the woman he’s dating, it’s okay to make her feel secure w/him (financially). However, there’s a difference between a man wanting to do something financially for his woman, versus a woman who’s always in his pockets. When a woman does that, it doesn’t prove whether or not if he’s a man. Yet, it will prove that the woman is merely interested in his pockets.
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Nancy L. Collins is the owner and creator of Your Beauty w/NancyCollins285 aka YourBeauty285. Under the umbrella of Your Beauty w/NancyCollins285, lies her Creative Ghostwriting business, blog posting, small business marketing, personal consulting, and two upcoming books (to be released in December 2017). Nancy resides in Atlanta, Georgia with her two children.